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We could ask for help, but we often avoid it due to vulnerability, societal pressures, and fear of judgment. Your essay reminds me of the book "The Boy, the Mole, the Fox, and the Horse", where seeking help is shown as courageous and deeply human. Thanks, Joanna.

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Thank you for reading Tinashe, and I’m intrigued to read that book! I completely agree that seeking help is courageous and deeply human. To avoid asking for help is shying away from the very qualities — vulnerability, fear of judgment— that make us human in first place.

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What has any UK government ever done to help we the people ? This question came up in a conversation with friends…the only example we came up with , is that we were a generation that benefitted from free degree level education. Governments do not help , they hinder .

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Many thanks for your comments Susan. It’s a complex situation, because I don’t think Governments are particularly good at explaining how & why they help. The more they do, people will see it, feel it and appreciate it.

For example, I’m walking down a country road at the moment. The road I’m walking on was paid with taxes, and was initiated by government.

I think some Governments and politicians hinder, but at the end of it all, the civil service is there to implement help. And they are directed by the government.

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It has become complicated and I am studying more on the subject of Governance . As for the roads, the government contracts with someone to fix or build the roads. In some ways governments help people with support through the institutions that have been set up…but I am seriously questioning what Governments do with the vast amounts of money they control and what new ways of governance better serve the people.

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I definitely think it's worth questioning how Governments use and spend money - quite a lot of tax money goes back into repaying debt. There needs to be more accountability and less waste. This comes back to having great, competent and effective administration and political leadership. And I also think there are new ways of governance which could better serve people as well. 😊

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I constantly ponder this question.

As a public speaking coach (very reasonably priced), I always say to people, 'just ask!'

A talk or presentation can be transformed for the benefit of audience and speaker alike if only the speaker would ask!

It seems to me that many of us think that somehow we will learn by some process of osmosis. This may be possible. But it will be slow, frustrating, even painful.

If you ask, you will see an amazing impact very fast, perhaps even in an hour. Getting a coach is transformative. It gives you a short-cut, fast-track route to success. It gives you the chance to give talks and presentations you can be really proud of and your audience will savour and remember.

Now You're Talking! Just ask!

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